Mismatched family traditions? Nobody teaches you how to blend your “normal” with theirs, and guesswork only leads to confusion, resentment, or worse—holiday dread. This blog dives into how unspoken childhood habits shape your adult relationship, why asking the right questions can save your sanity, and how to build your own family culture that actually feels good. If you’ve ever felt like you’re living in two different playbooks, this one’s for you.

You’re not failing because your marriage isn’t 50/50. You’re not broken because your husband doesn’t instinctively scrub the toilet or remember your kid’s shoe size. The modern fantasy of perfect equality in parenting is exhausting—and unrealistic for many of us raised in a different world. This piece is for the moms making it work, the women choosing independence, and anyone tired of being told it’s their fault if their partner won’t “step up.” Let’s talk about what real partnerships look like—flaws, uneven loads, and all.